Jun 17, 2026
Do you ever find yourself editing down your dreams before they even have a chance to take root?
There is a tendency, especially among smart, capable women, to minimize what we actually want. We tell ourselves, "I don’t need much, I’m fine," or we worry that having big ambitions somehow makes us greedy or ungrateful for what we already have. But wanting more doesn't mean you don't appreciate your life, it means your frequency is rising.
In this episode, I’m feeling a little spicy, and we are getting entirely honest about Overcoming Playing Small. Wanting more is not a character flaw; it is a natural, soul-level wiring. Your soul came into this physical experience to expand, learn, and grow. When you dismiss your inner cravings for more rest, more support, more income, or a bigger impact, you aren't being humble, you are just holding yourself back.
We dive into:
*- Desires as Data: How to stop treating your wants as things to be edited, and instead view them as essential feedback showing you exactly where you are being called to expand.
*- The "I'm Fine" Trap: Why we use minimization in our language, and how to accurately name the underlying boredom, antsiness, or dissatisfaction that signals a need for change.
*- Ego Chasing vs. Soul-Aligned Ambition: Discerning the difference between a superficial push for status and the deep, authentic pull toward work and relationships that bring true joy and alignment.
*- The Cost of Staying Small: Asking the tough, illuminating question of who in your life benefits when you dial down your brightness and choose to stay underemployed or unfulfilled.
*- You have a soul business to want more, and you can stretch your arms wide for abundance while remaining a grounded, generous, and emotionally mature human being.
If you are ready to stop shoulding on yourself, put down the editor's pen, and find the courage to say "I want," join me for this conversation. Let’s identify that very first, concrete action step to move you toward the expansive life you are meant to live.
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